Saturday, March 01, 2008

Bad Boys

Children are curious by nature. They like to explore and investigate.. They are fascinated with the world of adults and would badly want to become adults themselves . So, we see the young girl wearing her mom's shoes and the boy trying his father's necktie, and later on she would secretly use her mom's makeup and accessories and he would steal his fathers cigarettes or even his car.

All these are normal things that most teenagers may go through. But what bugs me big time is that when children lose their cuteness and innocence at a very young age and start acting and talking like grownups. I hate to see an eight or ten year old girl wearing high heals and huge earings, dying her hair or even wearing makeup! For God's sake she's still a child and not a teen yet! What's even more disturbing is that when boys start to think about or even be obsessed with matters that are too big and too complicated for their age.

I totally understand that some kids can be aware of sensitive matters like sex at the age of 10 or 12, sometimes after or sadly before that, but what I cannot perceive is the parents' ignorance of their boy's early adolescence and the circumstances that caused it and took the boy to an advanced stage where sex becomes all what occupies his mind and determines his actions.

In my first year as a teacher, I was asked once to take the place of another teacher who had to leave for some reason. It was my first time in grade seven and my last one too. The class was working on some worksheet that their teacher prepared for them, except for one who didn't take his eyes off me from the moment I entered the classroom. I asked him to kindly direct his attention towards his paper instead of wasting his whole time staring at me. After that he started asking me questions every now and then, what's this word, what does this question mean, etc... then he was almost whispering while talking to me so that I get near and closer to him to hear him well. I was explaining something to him when I noticed that he wasn't paying attention to the paper and to what I was saying at all, instead, he was drawing closer to me looking at me in a very strange way. A filthy disgusting look that got on my last nerve. I could barely believe that I was just almost harassed by a seventh grader!

In the same year, a fifth grader used to throw rulers and stuff under the girls desks so that he takes a peek at their legs and underwear. In grade three, there was a boy who was caught more than once drawing pictures for naked women. His parents were contacted and asked to keep a watchful eye on their son, but unfortunately we didn't sense any change in the boy. Last year, we also faced one of those weird exceptional cases where a second grader (seven years old) used to do things that went far beyond anything we could imagine a seven year old boy would do, and used to leave us in utter shock and bewilderment, like bringing porn magazines to school, opening his pants zipper to show the girls "something interesting", utter bad words to them, and tell them that he'd love to do so and so with them, etc... In this case too, the parents were contacted, but in vain. We, the teachers, could no more deal with this boy as a child. To us, he became just like a man whose mind is always occupied with dirty thoughts.

I feel very sorry for such kids. I feel sorry that their innocence and naivety for some reason have been snatched away this early. The kids are not to be blamed though. I blame negligent parents who think that raising kids is only about giving them food and clothing.

12 comments:

jasimd said...

Sadly, I agree with every word you have said. Actually, I've been wanting to write about this issue, but in the way that blogs and the media affect children and their thinking. If you don't mind, I would like to refer to your blog when I post it, it will be very helpful to address this point.
Thank you.

Diana said...

Actually Jasim I felt that I still have much to say about this issue, but thought it would be better to stop here for now.

and sure, feel free to refer to my blog or to any post u want :)

jasimd said...

Thanks :)

Yeah I know, this is a sensitive matter, and we should raise the awareness towards it, I mean really it's not something to be taken lightly.

As for me, we'll where I will stop :D

Sam said...

yes it is pretty sad...but look at what kids are exposed to through tv and other medias...wow that 7yo has some serious problems...poor kid!

Batoul A. said...

Y3nee just comparing between my childhood and today's generation shocks me. I coached a dance group and saw many actions such as this. The problem doesn'r end at these parents that let thier child's curiosity grow and give him the freedom to explore. It continues to be passed along and awakens ALL the children involved with him. The "bad apple". This is absolutely a dilemma. And just today I was at the mall and saw girls that are 9/10 were dressed in heels, hoops and walking shamelessly as if they own the world.... unil I began to laugh LOL their confidence quickly hit the floor.

Oriental Arabesque said...

u raised a very important issue here..excellent post diana...i agree with everything u said...
and it's 100% the parents responsibility

Hala said...

Oh my God! Are you serious? :s

I guess teaching is one of the professions that lets you truly know someone. When you deal with a child, he/she reflects what goes on at home.

Diana said...

-Jasim: will be waiting for your post then!

-Sam: yes exactly! Media is affecting them in many ways. and parents will wake up when their son/daughter ends up doing something horrible and only then they will realize how careless they have been!

Diana said...

-Batoul: you know children can go through many experiences, and the "bad or rotten apple" can have a big influence of course, and no matter how bad this effect was, the child will return back to his good nature if he was raised well and if he has parents who really care.
and about the girls, mish 3arfeh 3ala sho mesta3jleen?! la72een yekbaro ya3ni!

Diana said...

Mais: thank you. Of course it's the parents responsibility.

Hala: I've seen so many weird cases when I worked as a teacher. Children suffering from various psychological and emotional problems. Unfortunately, they are always the ones who pay for others faults.
الكبار يأكلون الحصرم والصغار يضرسون

Amjad Wadiِ said...

at 7th grad, those curious kids learn what ever comes to their mind from the internet and tv sat. channels .. so how do you want them to react? It is definitely their parents mistake, who follow the policy of: "KHallif w zitt"

Diana said...

yes Amjad, this age is very sensitive, and they may commit many mistakes during it, but I've never thought that it may reach the extent that they behave so impudently with a teacher!
hay heye.. khallif w zitt